Dr. Harville Hendrix postulates that “we are attracted to incompatible people” and I add “ so that we can go to a higher level of self-awareness”.
Projection is the process of seeing in others a part of us WE DON’T KNOW, so that we experience the same feelings we would if we saw that in us.
Projection is also a universal and collective phenomenon that causes misunderstandings, wars, atrocities and divorces. By attracting incompatible people we can eventually see with the help of a professional counselor, that we also attract people with traits we share, stored in our memory bank. Examples like familiar smells, accents, tastes in style, clothes, cultural memories and behaviors etc. are stored and held together by something, a force, a tremendous force…an atom. We see this phenomenon in the laws of Quantum Physics. A simple example is seen in Food Science when to make mayonnaise we need the same ratio of oil and egg yolk or the mass will coagulate and fall apart. A drop of lemon will be able to reconstitute the mayonnaise with an equal ratio. One atom holds the mass together because both mayonnaise and oil share the same atom. Here you can understand the principle of “push and pull”, attracted by the atom they share.
It’s easy to see the resemblance with this tenuous mixing of mayonnaise, in relationships with the push and pull of couples. During this emotional and cosmic “push and pull” we get a chance to work out our dark side, we can even change our DNA. Doesn’t this phenomenon feel like an ARRANGED MARRIAGE, orchestrated by our personal and collective unconscious? Or even by a HIGHER INTELLIGENCE? For humans TO EVOLVE AND REACH A HIGHER LEVEL OF AWARENESS AND LUMINOSITY? CLOSER TO THE ULTIMATE ATOM?
Students: Search in all Holy Books for such concept – Quantum Physics – Food Science.
Dr. Harville Hendrix – “Keeping The Love You Find” – Amazon.com